Oh boy!! There are some real photographic problems here. Whether it’s single women looking to date guys or men seeking women, you need to look your best in that on line photo.
If you are one of those people who doesn’t want to post their photo on a dating site, then this won’t apply to you. But if you like to post your photo in hopes of getting the opposite sex to notice you then here are a few image tips.
Don’t just grab an old or even recent photo unless it clearly presents you looking great with a nice smile. A photo of you with your three sisters on a beach in Mexico when you are a hundred yards from the camera is not worth even considering for a dating site. Sorry ladies but the guys want to see what you look like and have little interest in the beach, your dog or a bunch of flowers.
In looking over a few of these sites I notice some very common image problems with both men and women. Firstly, if you are going to take your own photo, make sure you don’t use a wide angle lens. This applys to whether you use a hand held camera or the one built into your computer. The closer you get to this type of lens, the more distorted your features will look, and you’ll get too much background for a mug shot on a dating site.
I have a separate HD camera that is attached to my computer that has a zoom feature built in, allowing me to look more portraiture like on the screen. These computer cameras are not expensive but superior to the kind that come built into your computer.
Now ladies, this is especially important for you more so than the guys. You want to be seen in your best light, so here are some tips that will help you look your best. I’m going to stay totally away from makeup in this article, cause you women know more about anti aging face creams and makeup for covering acne scars or dealing with derm issues, than do us guys.
Don’t use a light that is positioned at the side of your face as this type of lighting will accentuate texture. If you have any wrinkles or blemishes, this is the worst lighting position for you. If you sit in front of a mirror and place a small light source on your right or left side, you will see what I mean.
Try to have a (big source of light) and one that is more or less in front of you, but just a bit to one side. A good example here would be the light created by a large window on an overcast day. Simply put, the bigger the light source, the softer the light and the better you will look. You might want to stay away from direct sunlight here which is a large source but a very hard light.
If your shot is going to be taken outside on a sunny day. Use the Sun as a backlight, that is, have the Sun coming from behind you when it is a bit lower in the sky. This way you will have a very attractive hair light from the Sun and you won’t be squinting. The light on your face will be diffused and very soft. If you can position yourself against a dark background in a shot like this, you will have great contrast in your frame. (Take a look at girl in the video on my front page of this site and you will see a good example of the type of lighting I am talking about here.)
Watch for colour problems if you use fluorescent lights. These type of lights come in all different wave lengths and can make your flesh tone appear green or bluish. The new “full spectrum” versions are ok because they appear like natural daylight. Most fluorescent lights are mounted in the ceiling and though they give a soft light, it is not very flattering because it comes straight down and creates dark shadows under the eyes.
The background is also very important. If you have a good complexion and a bit of a tan, then a blue or green background will enhance your tan somewhat and add contrast to your shot, making your photo stand out from all the other bad shots on dating sites. Remember this… “Amber and blue are good for you.”
Use the “Clean frame technique”. Make sure that there are not a lot of objects in the frame behind you that could draw the eye away from you. Why have your potential date looking around the background, unless it says what you want it to say about you.
Another tip which you see in many well done portrait type photos is to have your body positioned at right angles from the camera but be looking over your shoulder at the camera. This kind of shot adds a bit of class to your picture.
I guess I don’t have to tell you to stay away from busy patterns with regard to shirts and blouses. All they will do is fight your good looks for attention.
So let’s just revue a few points.
*Don’t just pick an old shot
*Use a lens that allows you to zoom in.
*Stay away from overhead lighting
*Light from the front, not the sides
*Use a big source to light yourself
*Use the Sun as a backlight, you won’t be squinting
*Blue is a great background colour
*Keep the background simple
*Plain colours for shirts and blouses
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Hope this is of some help. Have to go now. I’m late for my facial.